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Eastern Kentucky University

Counseling Center

Counseling Center 5 Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself

  • Your feelings about the separation may be different than your spouse’s but both of you are experiencing a major life change.
  • Share your feelings with other experienced parents, partners, friends…anyone who will listen.
  • Take up a new hobby… take a vacation after your student leaves home…read a book…get physical…do something for you!
  • Anticipate what separation from your student will be like BEFORE that day.

Be Prepared

  • Say good-bye before you even get to the dorm so the moment doesn’t seem rushed and you can say what you want to say.
  • Brace yourself for the changing of majors…the average is 3 – just so you know!
  • Be prepared to hate seeing your student’s room so clean.

Knowledge is Empowering

  • Introduce yourself to residence hall advisors, hall directors, anyone wearing an EKU nametag that has contact with your student.
  • Be aware of campus resources so you can recommend one to your student if needed. The Office of Student Affairs is able to discuss these resources with you.
  • Read the EKU Student Handbook so you know university policies and resources.
  • Know a roommate’s/friend’s name and the names of their parents so you can reach out to your students support network.

Stay Connected: For You and for Your Student

  • Communicate: Discuss ahead of time how you will communicate regularly with your student (e-mail, phone, letters, etc.).Find your best calling night (usually a Sunday) to talk with your s
  • dent.
  • Send letters, texts, emails to your student about high school news, sports, and hometown trivia.
  • Making and sending care packages that are really personal can be so much fun – like playing Santa (and often leads to a social gathering in your student’s room).
  • Don’t be shy in communicating how much you miss your son or daughter but do refrain from emotionally unloading.
  • If at all possible, attend Family Weekend, sponsored by EKU Parent and Family Programs.
  • Discuss good times for school visits…homecoming, basketball games, etc… and plan them.

Celebrate and Remember this Milestone: For Everyone

  • Identify a ritual/ceremony that celebrates this rite of passage for your student and your family. An intimate visit to a favorite family vacation spot, a family party, or even a large neighborhood block party are some examples.
  • Save the emails and bind them for that graduation party.
  • Take lots of pictures…of their roommates…friends…packing…etc.
  • Write a letter before they go off to school about how you feel about them, their leaving, their accomplishments, them growing up.

Counseling Center

521 Lancaster Avenue
CPO 52, Whitlock Building Room #571
Richmond, KY 40475-3152
Phone: 859-622-1303

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